Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Should I?

i still remember the date and the time..
we were having great times...
and then, al of a sudden
without a reason
she went and never came back...
i was sad..but she dint come..
i kept looking for her.. but she din't come

and now after so long
She comes to my street
and she still remembers my name.. and my smile :)
she remembers my birthday and recalls the old times..
but should i be friends again..!!
should i?

P.S - Don't be so emotional :p ...i know i am not good in writing :) !!

Whatever..Anything.. You Decide

Case 1- whatever!!
Men: What to have for dinner?
Women: Whatever..
Men: Why not we have steamboat?
Women: Don't want, eat steamboat later got pimples in my face
Men: Alright, why not we have Si Chuan cuisine
Women: Yesterday ate Si Chuan, today eat again?
Men: Hmm..... I suggest we have seafood
Women: Seafood no good, later I got diarrhea
Men: Then what you suggest?
Women : Whatever..

Case 2- Anything
Men: So what should we do now?
Women: Anything
Men: How about watching movie? Long time we didn't watch movie
Women: Watching movie no good, waste time only
Men: How about we play bowling, do some exercises?
Women: Exercise in such hot day? You not feel tire meh?
Men: Then find a café and have drink
Women: Drink coffee will affect my sleep
Men: Then what you suggest?
Women: Anything

Most Dangerous- you Decide
Men: Then we just go home
Women: You decide
Men: Let take bus, I will accompany you
Women: Bus is dirty and crowded. Don't want
Men: Ok we will take Taxi
Women: Not worth it... for such a short distance
Men: Alright, then we walk. Take a slow walk
Women: What to walk with empty stomach woh?
Men: Then what you suggest?
Women: You decide
Men: Let's have dinner first
Women: Whatever...
Men: Eat what?
Women: Anything

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Four Different States

last few days i had some amzing things happening in my life.... a very good friend messaging me not to call back.. a friend pushing talks to next call with a simple reason of 'too busy with life n stuff' friend inviting over for a dinner delight :) .. a friend coming for support.. and it all takes me to a very confusing state of mind.. i am very happy coz of some people in my life.. and disturbed coz of some...

i jst have these four states to share rite now .

1. a simple message from a friend spoiled my mood and eventually the day... why? no hard feelings.. but anyways.. you can't keep on asking so just going with the flow..!!

2. Busy wid something.. ttyl.. and that laters is COMING SOON :) !!

i firmly believe that if you are a friend.. then even if you are busy.. you are always free enough to greet and cut to talk laters..everyone is busy in today's life.. you're not alone..!!

3. Dinner Delight..: Can you think of a dinner with home made saag, roti and wonderful company.. i jst had it this sunday.. followed by Ras Malai from Munim di Hatti :P went to meet mah frn and her mom offered me dinner treat and how can you say NO to tht..!! This was again a friend's house.. and a different situation..!!

4. i had few words to say to my own uni mates but on stage this time round.. so i jst shared tht wid one of my frienz and he came just to support....he had a date fixed.. cud hve gone there and said.. m busy.. but he was there.. !!

Publishing after a year.. coz somehow this went into drafts and never got published.. i remember those times so.. documented version is here.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Looking for a Friend?

long time back, I heard these lines at kirtan and i get back to them many a times while i meet different people.

Har milan vele puchda e;
tera sajna yaar parvaar kinna?
saak sambandhi ne das tere hor kinne?
te aggeo ohna da karobaar kina?
nagd hai kina te samaan kina?
yari ohde naal paao jera har wele puche
ve sajna tera tere guru naal hai pyaar kina?

I will try to get back on this post to explain what it says !!

Friday, September 05, 2008

Online Friendships

Online friendship is making friends an e-way. Some of them do turn to life long friends and some are short terms but on the way there are some things, which
should be taken care of, to make the bonds strong. A mixed experience in online friendship has pushed me to write on little things you should be careful of and certain disciplines which you need to take care while things are shaping up.

Before going on to things which one should do, let’s talk about something one should avoid doing : [The DO NOT DO things]

1. Do not email your photographs in the first few chats/exchange of messages only. Danger of them getting misused is more than actual expectations. I have pics on my social networking site but I don’t play ‘Lets share the pics’ game while talking to anyone who I don’t know in person.

2. Do not ever commit to anything online. It’s not a game being played . Don’t make promises of going for a holiday, marriage and all that stuff even if you are sure that the other person is your only one. Meet before you say anything.

3. Don’t be a starter always. Give other person the chance to reciprocate. Online friendship is one thing which needs equal communication to flow from both ends else the age of friendship doesn’t last long.

4. Don’t share any personal details until the trust factor is established among you both. It takes time and let the time pass to start believing in the friendship.

Little time for looking at things you should do while you are having online friends [the DO list]:

1.Be completely honest. If you are looking for honesty from other side, the same holds true for him/her as well. It doesn’t means to share things in and out but maintain a level of disclosing your life and let that portion is true share. Sometimes online friendship go long so in that case, sharing an honest part always helps.

2.Never ever share your passwords/ bank account details or credit card details just because you have started trusting the other person.

3.Always be clear of your expectations. You might just be looking for a normal friendship but the other side might be eyeing for a long term relationship so make sure both of you have clarity of thoughts on your expectations from each other as friends.

4.Confidence is the key. Your shy nature might be the reason of target for any person to fool you around. Be confident while you talk. Since you are not meeting in person its always better to take some time and then reply.

Are you meeting him/her?

Once the level of comfort develops, both would wish to meet and share thoughts offline. No doubt it’s a great way to move from world of online friends to real but be careful before meeting.

1.Make sure before meeting , you have been in conversation for some times. And its always great to talk over phone for some conversations before actually moving to meeting in real. The conversation over the phone would create the level of easiness when you meet for first time.
2.Try not to go alone, for first one-two meets. You might have a common friend or just a trusted friend who can go along with you and you can make him/her part of meeting and not just the point of security for you. There is nothing embarrassing about this.

3.Your first few meeting places should be public places like Coffee Bars, Restaurants, Market places or any malls. Never have your first meetings at secluded place for it may backfire and put you in questionable situation.

4.Stay Connected : Its good to have phone on silent mode but never put it off coz its disturbing your meeting. You make sure you are connected to the world while you are meeting.
5.Never think you are too smart or never show over excitement to meet. This might give a wrong impression on the other side.

I suppose this is more than required list of do’s and don’t to maintain long lasting online friendships.